Sexual Violence
This page includes information on what sexual violence is, helpful resources, and support services in the community.
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What is sexual violence?
Sexual Violence is a term that describes sexual activity or behaviour that a person does not or cannot give consent to.
Sexual Violence is also a family violence issue as the person who uses harmful sexual behaviour is often someone known to the victim/survivor, and it is often through the exploitation of power and control. It does not matter if you are married, in a relationship, family, or strangers – Consent must be obtained. Other terms used include sexual harassment, sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harm and harmful sexual behaviour.
Some of the behaviours are:
- Sexual violation: any type of penetrative sex without consent (rape) – vaginal, anal, oral, fingers/hands, object.
- Any indecent exposure such as flashing or inappropriate display of the body
- Unwanted sexual touching, hugging, encroaching on someone's personal space, kissing or indecent assault
- Online harm such as sharing of intimate images or videos including sextorion and deep fakes.
- Any unwanted sexually suggestive comments or jokes, gestures, insults or taunts of a sexual nature, or other forms of inappropriate language
- Any unwanted advances, repeated invitations to go out on dates, particularly if those invitations have previously been declined
- Inappropriate staring or leering
- Using threats, force, intimidation or coercion to induce consent
- Being forced to carry out a sexual act or requests for sexual favours
- Intrusive questions or comments about a person's private life, clothing or physical appearance
- Any unwanted receipt of sexually explicit pictures, posters, gifts, emails or text messages
- Direct or indirect requests for sexual activity that contain an implied or express promise of preferential treatment or threat of detrimental treatment, exploiting a power differential
- Being forced to watch pornography
The behaviour may or may not be entwined with homophobia, biphobia, gender policing, transphobia, ableism, sexism and/or racism.
What is consent?
Consent means the active, ongoing, informed, specific and freely given agreement in response to a request to engage in physical contact, sharing media or sexual activity. Consent cannot be given by someone who is coerced, incapacitated by drugs or alcohol or is so affected by drugs or alcohol that they cannot consent or refuse to consent to the activity. Consent cannot be given by someone who is unconscious or who has a diminished level of consciousness, or otherwise unable to understand and voluntarily give consent. Consent must be actively sought and actively communicated.
Interactive tool: Sexual Consent: Do you get it?
Resources and supporting others
Safety planning
- Staying safe on campus and in social settings - consider creating a safety plan for yourself and with your friends
- Love is respect - another great safety planning resource for students
- Victim's Info
Supporting others
The key actions to a safe response to a disclosure are: Believe them, Listen, Offer Options (for support and reporting - see 'support services' below), Get support for yourself.
- Ensure basic needs are being met: Here to Help U may be able to assist
- Get Help for Someone Else Call Safe To Talk 0800 044 334.
Informative resources
- Specialist Sexual Assault Medical Service (via SAATS). If the sexual assault occurred within the past 7 days, a person can choose to have a forensic examination.
- If you are sexually assaulted – understanding your options - Gender Minorities Aotearoa.
- The Light Project - This website provides resources and information about porn for youth, their whānau, and youth professionals.
- Thursdays in Black - National campaign run by, and for, students to prevent and respond to sexual violence in tertiary institutions. Note: Currently, there is not a club at the University of Waikato.
- The Harbour - For those affected by harmful sexual behaviour.
For sexual violence support services see TOAH–NNEST – Waikato
The University of Waikato Student Health Service
A multidisciplinary health team that is available to provide support to students.
Phone: 07 838 4037
Website: Student Health Service | Hauora Ākonga
Midlands Sexual Assault Support Services
Support, counselling and advice to anyone who experiences sexual violence and their whaanau in Hamilton City and Matamata-Piako areas.
Call or text: 027 278 5331
Office: (07) 839 4433 or 0800 839 4433
Email: referral@msass.org.nz
Website: www.msass.org.nz
Hamilton Adults & Adolescents (Waikato) Sexual Assault Assessment and Treatment Service (SAATS)
Reassurance, medical and forensic examination and referral to support 24 hours / 7 days
Phone: 07 858 0800 and ask for SAATS service
Website: medsac.org.nz/saats-help
Tautoko Mai Sexual Harm Support (Waikato)
Confidential and immediate help to survivors of sexual harm in Hamilton-surrounding areas.
Freephone: 0800 227 233
Phone: (07) 577 0512
Email: support@tautokomai.co.nz
Website: www.tautokomai.co.nz
Tautoko Tāne Male Support Services
Support for males with physical, mental, emotional, domestic or sexual abuse experiences
Phone: 07 858 4112/ Crisis Support: 0800 MSSATW (0800 677289)
Email: admin@waikatosurvivors.org.nz
Website: waikatosurvivors.org.nz
Shama
National Ethnic Response for Sexual Harm and specialist family violence support for ethnic women and children
Phone: 07 843 3810
Email: crisis1@shama.org.nz
Website: www.shama.org.nz
Safe Network
Treatment for children, youth and adults with problematic, concerning, or harmful sexual behaviour
Website: www.safenetwork.org.nz/
Diversity Counselling
Counselling by registered professionals supporting people from a diversity of cultures, ethnicities, genders, religions, and languages.
Phone: 021 0262 5587
Email: contact@dcnz.net
Website: diversitycounselling.org.nz
Waikato Community Law
Free Legal help
Phone: 0800 529 482
Website: communitylaw.org.nz/centre/waikato
Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB) Hamilton
Free, confidential, independent information and advice for everyone, as well as helping people know what their rights are and how to access services they need.
Phone: 07 839 0395/ 0800 367 222 (nationwide)
Website: www.cab.org.nz
For sexual violence support services see TOAH–NNEST – Bay of Plenty
The University of Waikato Tauranga Student Health Service
On-site, students have access to a Student Health Nurse, a Physio, Massage Therapist, and Chaplain.
Website: waikato.ac.nz/students/health-wellbeing/student-health/tauranga-student-health
Bay Counselling & Therapy Service
A referral can be made to this service by the student health nurse.
Phone: 022 013 9003
Email: admin@baycounselling.co.nz
Tautoko Mai Sexual Harm Support (Bay of Plenty)
Confidential and immediate help to survivors of sexual harm. SAATS Centre.
Freephone: 0800 227 233
Phone: (07) 577 0512
Email: support@tautokomai.co.nz
Website: www.tautokomai.co.nz
Tautoko Tāne: Male Support Services Bay of Plenty
Support for male survivors of sexual abuse
Phone: 027 271 8898
Email: info@msbop.nz
Website: tautokotane-bop.nz
Safe Network
Treatment for children, youth and adults with problematic, concerning, or harmful sexual behaviour
Website: www.safenetwork.org.nz
Baywide Community Law
Free legal help
Phone: 07 571 6812
Website: communitylaw.org.nz/centre/tauranga-whakatane
Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB) Tauranga
Free, confidential, independent information and advice for everyone, as well as helping people know what their rights are and how to access services they need.
Phone: 07 578 1592/ 0800 367 222 (nationwide)
Website: www.cab.org.nz